Experiences=Change

Cass is here again.

I want to dish out another rant for you all today, because, well, who doesn’t love rants?

I’ve noticed recently that people talk about change, alot. Places changing, music changing, and even people changing. Now, if you’re anything like me, you have some super mixed feelings about change. I mean, things are great the way they are, right? Well, not always.

Imagine if our world never changed. We would basically still be cavemen, and well, this page wouldn’t even exist. But hey, we would complain if that hadn’t changed…Right? Oh wait, I’m wrong? Well, ask yourself this, how is that much different from today’s world?

We spend our days analyzing, criticizing, and super sizing our world. Judging, harming, and hurting. We scrutinize others choices, and belittle others for their actions. We complain day after day about people changing, and reinventing themselves..Then are hurt, when people do the same thing to us.

Think about this, everyone changes with time. If our personalities and figures stayed the same, you would still be that scared little girl hiding behind your mom in the grocery. You might still be that little boy terrified of making friends. You might very well have never met the people you are closest to now, or never read that book that changed your life. You never would have went to camp, found inspiration, became a child prodigy, or visited Washington D.C.

You never would have had the experiences you have had now, and you wouldn’t be the person you are today. Because with time, comes change. As scary as change can be sometimes, its what us humans feed off of. Had you never taken the leap to move, go to college, get a job, or reinvent your style? You wouldn’t be who you are. Experiences make us who we are, experiences are changes, and changes make us human.

So, the next time you are about to criticize your friends new hair, your dads new shoes, or your new neighbors, think about how those experiences are going to influence those people. How your friends new hair might have finally boosted her too low self-esteem, which you just crushed. How your dad’s new shoes make him feel less old, and you just made him feel like the lame dad trying to hard. And how your new neighbors are trying so hard to fit in, rather than stand out.

Experiences make us, changes face us, and life takes us. I’ll leave you with a quote to think on.

I think there are certain ways that people are always themselves, but I do think people change.

Mike White

What’s your thoughts? Let us know on facebook, twitter, email, or in the comments below. Love y’all so much, and check back tomorrow for more food for thought♥

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Accepting the Unacceptable

Cass here.

There’s a very famous quote that says;

We accept the love, we think we deserve

Now, this quote was written by a very wise man, by the name of Stephen Chbosky. If any of you guys out there are book nerds, which I’m sure you are if you follow our blog, you know that Chbosky wrote The Perks Of Being  A Wallflower. If you haven’t read it, read it. It’ll seriously change your life.

Now, the point of this post isn’t about this book, believe it or not. Rather, its about that quote. Day by day we move through life like robots. Wake up, school or work, get home, eat, tv/homework/reading, and then bed. It seems, that, day by day, we forget about a little thing called…Love.

I’m not going to sit here and type away about sappy romances, protagnists saving the girl of their dreams, and cheesy pick up lines (Although, cheesy pickup lines are great. “Is your Dad a robber? Cause he stole the stars and moon and put them in your eyes” 😉 . Rather, I’m going to tell you how Chbosky’s quote can be taken in a literal way. About, how, we as humans do exactly as Chbosky says, in the quote above.

Its eight words, so how, could it possibly describe over half the human race, you say? Well, we as humans have become adapted to settling. We settle for everything. We settle for the marked down loaf of bread, the discounted sweater, and believe it or not, we even settle when it comes to love.

I see it every day, boy and girl alike. We pass through life believing we need a significant other, to make us happy. When we don’t have one? We find ourselves depressed, upset, and feeling left out. So, someone comes around. They tell us the right words, everything we want to hear. Whether we feel the emotions we should towards them, we settle. We throw caution to the wind, and go for the one who says the things that seem to make all our insecurities fade. We settle for the guy/girl who will eventually use us, and leave us with our hearts in our hands.

We all have standards, whether you want to admit it or not. Every human has a right to standards, which more often or not, we over look. We over look the standards that we should, so we can fit in, be cool, and have someone who we believe “Makes us happy.”

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve experienced this too, but is lowering our standards really going to get us anywhere in life? Saying;

I love him

He loves me

I’m the happiest I’ll ever be

When you went for the guy that uses every girl? For the girl whose been with every guy? Now, you’re probably thinking, how in the world does this have anything to do with  Chbosky’s quote? Well, although you may lower your standards, and settle, you’re also doing exactly what Chbosky says. You’re accepting the kind of love that you think you DESERVE.

Sure you have insecurities, we all do, but you’re settling for the guy, because he makes those insecurities “fade away.” In more simple terms, you’re accepting him, and the love he gives you, because that’s what you think you deserve to have. Which is awesome. In a similar way, we settle for the guys (and girls) who use us or ask for more then we want to give. Which in short, is what we might believe we deserve.

If you don’t think highly of yourself, then you’re probably not going to think highly of what type of significant other you should be given either. Which, honestly, you’re awesome. You deserve all the world has to give. But, that my friends, is for another article.

Well, that’s all for now! Let us know on our twitter, facebook, or in the comments section below your thoughts(:

Everyone is different so why try to fit in?

Ave is posting again! 

If you have noticed, and I’m sure you have. Girls (and guys) these days tend to blend in with people around them. What I mean by “blend in”, is fit in. They are trying to like things that they do not like.

I go to a public school and I have noticed this occurrence quite often. Students do drugs because the people they hang out with do it. Girls show more skin and wear loads of makeup because the girls in their group do the same. I want to break this habit that we see so often. I mean, why should I base my personality (likes, dislikes) off of what my friends do and like? The correct answer is: I should not. Neither should you.

A new girl at my school who shall be remain anonymous has bright pink hair. I mean BRIGHT PINK. The moment this girl walked into school she captured everyone’s attention. At lunch she sat alone. I didn’t want her to be alone on her first day of school sitting alone, so I sat by her. She is a very petite and lovely girl that requires no makeup whatsoever and she never wore any. She happened to be really nice and thanked me for sitting next to her. The next day, I looked for her but noticed she had found a group of girls to sit by so I resumed to sit at my usual lunch table with my friends. That particular group of friends was close-knit and required a lot of attention from everyone. She seemed to be having a hard time fitting in with them, but she continued sitting there even though they ignored her,

The day after, I immediately noticed her slumped posture, glittery face, fake eyelashes and change in wardrobe. I was really baffled that she would change so quick and drastically. I didn’t say anything for fear of insulting her, but a lot of people noticed. The girls she sat with at lunch finally acknowledged her existence. They acted as if she were part of their group and complimented her new look. She didn’t look happy though. She didn’t look like she wanted to sit there.

She is the perfect example of the pressure that certain people put on others to be like them. She walked around feeling happy and feeling like herself and just like that she was someone unrecognizable. If you are pretending to be someone you are not then you need to reevaluate your friends.

No two people are the same.

Haven’t you ever heard of that quote? I wholeheartedly agree with it. Nobody has the authority to make you act a certain way. Like the things you like, don’t change for anyone. If they would ignore you for being yourself then they do not deserve your presence. I’m different than my friends in the way that I like exploring and they don’t. They like shopping and I don’t. Don’t you see? If you ever are looking for a way to fit in, look for a way to stand out instead. Not for the attention, but because you can’t be compared to others.  So don’t let others put pressure on you to be like them.

You are incomparable.

You are beautiful. 

Dorothy Must Die Review

This retelling of The Wizard of Oz is truly interesting and might give you a different view of the original version.
*MAY CONTAIN SPOILERS, READ AT YOUR OWN RISK*

Amy is an ordinary pink-haired Kansas girl that lives in a trailer park and occasionally gets picked on in school. Her Mother neglects her and sits staring at nothing for days on end. Unfortunately it takes a tornado for her to see what she truly cares for in life.

My first impression of the book was that it was going to ruin the original book/movie for me. But everything pulled together and makes sense to me now. This book is full of magic and power that will entertain you throughout the story. The story shifts just as the moods change.

Amy is a very relatable character in the sense that she’s just trying to escape, and when she does… she’s really not too sure what to do. She has very risky choices but all of them were for the better (Or, WICKED). She forms alliances with characters but she knows she only has herself to trust completely. I think that this book was like a puzzle. The more you read (or pieces you found) the clearer the picture became. I highly recommend this book if you enjoy The Wizard of Oz. Everyone is just trying to restore Oz to it’s former glory. But first, Dorothy Must Die.

Fandom in the Midst of Crazy People

Ave here…
I consider my admiration of certain entertainment outlets to be a form of artistic expression. In my mind, I “feel” what other mediocre fannies do not. The possessiveness that I feel surely cannot be the same unpredictable, deranged feelings erupting from these random people who have found a way into my inner sanctum. Who let them in anyway?

Recently, I was supposed to attend a function with several of MY fandoms. I had it all planned- I would be sophisticated, I would be educated. I.would.be.amazingly.individual. It was to be my night with my people. Sure, other people would be there, but I would stand out. Or…not.

Fans!!!!! All 6,000 of you who showed up for my night and ruined my thing! Ugh, screaming, crazy people! Do you not understand how crazy you look, how completely ridiculous you sound? It is time for a reality check here.

Poor pathetic party crashers. This is my fandom. I am the queen. I am not quite sure what kind of delusional world you live in, but I am the only one who truly understands.

Love,
Every Fangirl

Summer and TFIOS Soundtrack

It’s Ave.

Summer is fast approaching and can I just say, Summer is overrated.

You have all of this free time, but ever year it’s wasted. I mean, you can’t just be on vacation the entire summer. SO what are you doing?> Reading. You’re reading and trying to relax in what feels like the few days of summer. Yes, the summer passes so fast it feels like days. Not cool, bro. But, there are few days where you may step outside, get completely bombarded by the sunlight and step back inside. So that’s basically going to be my summer. READING. I’ll probably have quite a few book reviews up during the summer. Might include, Harry Potter Series, Enders Game Series, Stargirl,  Love, and The Underland Chronicles. 

*Inserts Benchwarmers Quote*

Howie: I used to think the sun was evil but now I know it’s not.

Wayne: How’s the moon treating you?

Howie: Not a fan.

Moving on,

The Fault in Our Stars playlist. What did you guys think? I’m currently listening to it, and surprisingly I only like a few of the songs. What I imagined the songs to do was catch the emotion of the story and maybe bring up a few scenes. But I can’t find any that have anything to do with the book except a few. “Tee Shirt”, “Best Shot”, and “Not About Angels” by Birdy are my favorite so far. They really catch the romance of the story, which I love. Plus her voice is so perfect! I like the song “Oblivion” by The Indians also! I mean, Oblivion. Guys. Gus. OKAY?

What are your favorites? Please comment below and tell us!

Divergent Movie Review

Hey everyone, Cass here!

So, sorry for the lack of posts on our part, its been super busy around here, and we simply haven’t had time. We won’t let it happen again! Anyways, today we thought we would post something extra special and let you all in on a Divergent movie review.

Im sure by now you all know how annoying it is to want to see a movie, but you’re not sure if it’s actually worth your time. Right? Maybe you read the book, and are just certain they will ruin the movie by not making it a 17hr long movie including every single detail from the book. Then there’s the people you can’t stand going saying they’re part of the fandom, when they’ve never even touched the book. Annoying, right?

So, here’s a little scoop on the ever famous Divergent movie, and whether it’s worth your while to go see…

Its a Thursday afternoon, around 7pm, and Ave and I shuffle in to the movie theater unaware of what we’re about to see. As huge fans of the Divergent Trilogy, we were just as skeptical as im sure most of you are. I mean, gosh darn they better not ruin the book for us! So, we were there early and pulled up in to front row seating, sneaking in food (I mean hey, why pay for overpriced popcorn when you can clearly fit 4boxes of candy AND pop in your bag…), and more than likely annoying everyone with our fangirling before the movie began.

After around 140 minutes of on the edge of your seat movie watching, it was over. All the anticipation, all the fangirling, all the hope for a good movie was over. To say I was speechless would be a bit of an over dramatization, but to say I was normal wasn’t quite right either. I think I speak for both of us, when I say we were simply….In shock.

The movie was amazing, but of course like any movie variation of a book, it did have quite a few changes. So, if you don’t like changes, do NOT go see this movie. For although they kept the movie on around the same track as the book, they changed many scenes. Im honestly not sure how they will incorporate this in to the next movie, for they didn’t even mention Edward! No Edward eye stabbing or anything! Sad news, right? I mean don’t we all go to the movies just to see a guy just stabbed in the eye with a knife? No…Oh okay.

Anyways, all in all I would give this movie a 4 out of 5 stars. Great actor choices, and for the most part it kept to the story line. Of course, we’ll stay in high hopes for the next movie…INSURGENT!!!!!!

If you checked out the movie, feel free to tell us what you thought on either our email, Facebook, or in the comment’s section below! Thanks for reading and check back later for more Fandom fun!

Looking Around

Ave here!

If you look around our blog page you will find that we have a Goodreads and Facebook Page.

Goodreads is basically our online bookshelf where we will post our ratings for books.

Facebook! You can show your love by clicking the like button in the box below!

We also just made a Google account, beyondthefangirl@gmail.com . If you need advice, send it in and we’ll answer!
(When posted on the blog, the user’s information will always be anonymous. So no worries!)
If you have ideas or questions, please feel free to send them in as well!

Now onto the good stuff… Since every fandom is different and highly likely to take offence to things that we may not have liked. Please understand that everyone is different and even if we don’t like it doesn’t mean that it’s not awesome! It seriously might be a wonderful read, my brain might not have comprehended the pure awesomeness of the book or movie. There are at least a million possibilities in my mind. So please understand. 🙂

But c’mon every fandom has something in common and that’s the love of reading. Let’s bond over that, yeah?

 

 

Welcome to our Blog!

Hello! Welcome to the blog of Cass and Ave.

Ave here! I’m 15 and a half. I absolutely LOVE reading and writing. I have many fandoms but most of which are from books. I enjoy playing guitar and running. Reading, have I mentioned reading? Ah, yes. Okay well. Be prepared for your mind to be blown with all of our amazing posts.

I hope that you’ll thoroughly enjoy all of our rants and vents. We created this page out of pure fangirling with a side of advice. If you ask, we’ll answer!

 

Hey there, Cass here! Im also 15, and am a total book nerd. In my free time I enjoy writing a ton of poetry, singing, and well….Reading. Ave and I have been friends for years now, and just recently decided that fangirling to eachother just simply was not enough. So, we decided that we needed to unite all the Fandom Family in a place where you can find everything Fandom. From The Fault in Our Stars, Divergent, and even The Hunger Games, we’re your one stop shop. We even dish out advice, and give you all the insight to everything you need to know. So sit back, pull up a chair, and prepare to be dazzled!